tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post7396859315797989758..comments2023-09-25T09:57:18.004-05:00Comments on Patsy's Ponderings by Patsy Terrell: Barriers, Masks and Words that Make Me UnapproachableUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-8980077281250759492008-08-01T12:22:00.000-05:002008-08-01T12:22:00.000-05:00You're so kind. I am incredibly thankful for the f...You're so kind. I am incredibly thankful for the friends in my world - whether I've met them through traditional means or because they're semi-related to the lope. <BR/><BR/>I realize I am off-putting to people at times, but I can never pinpoint the exact problem. Maybe it varies depending on the other person and their perspective. <BR/><BR/>I like to have a number of different kinds of people in my world, but I do have to be myself - glasses and all. Of course, Nathan did interact with me and we were together for a long time, but I guess it required him to go beyond his comfort zone. <BR/><BR/>Maybe that's what's required of everyone in any relationship to a degree - getting beyond our comfort zones if we're going to engage on a truly meaningful level. <BR/><BR/>I'll try to take your advice and not worry about it, but as you know, I'm big on self-examination. Thanks.Patsy Terrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03265729671827964868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-48580705230693197272008-08-01T03:31:00.000-05:002008-08-01T03:31:00.000-05:00Patsy, I've known you for more than 20 years (hint...Patsy, I've known you for more than 20 years (hint: I'm semi-related to the Lope). No one can build a network of friends with scope and richness of yours without being approachable. <BR/><BR/>I believe the bit about the glasses is way off. I don't get how someone could consider you unapproachable based on that. Maybe it was his own insecurity. <BR/><BR/>Confidence and conviction can be off-putting to those that don't have them. It's their problem, not yours. Find something else to worry about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-39064449456300897432008-07-30T14:24:00.000-05:002008-07-30T14:24:00.000-05:00When these things that supposedly happened more th...When these things that supposedly happened more than two decades ago when we worked in the same place are referenced I'm completely lost. From the picture you paint of me in these various twenty-plus year old memories, I'm just thankful I still have devoted friends from that era of my life.Patsy Terrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03265729671827964868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-11864041275658034202008-07-30T13:41:00.000-05:002008-07-30T13:41:00.000-05:00xcdhfpPatsy,I have this clear vision of you from s...xcdhfpPatsy,<BR/><BR/>I have this clear vision of you from so very long ago laughing about how you couldn't understand how a person wouldn't get the jokes about Imelda Marcos' shoes.<BR/><BR/>I remember this inconsequential moment in time because I realized later I should have listened to my gut at that precise moment. <BR/><BR/>I should have politely excused myself and gone back to the world I have always lived in instead of just thinking, maybe Patsy doesn't really mean to say that another human being is to be laughed about because they don't read the world news in the newspaper. <BR/><BR/>As the years have passed and I came into more contact with people who value knowledge as a divining rod, I understood that you have your own culture. <BR/><BR/>As a culture, academia hopes to move the world forward through new discoveries. To build from previous discoveries and knowledge to ever increasing solutions. Over time, that hope evolved into an elevation of specific knowledge as the best hope for mankind. It gives them both function and purpose. A sense of community. A sense of self. A definition. <BR/><BR/>I think you've found your home in that world Patsy. You love what you see as progress and you want to be a vital part of that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-19747909566875324972008-07-29T23:15:00.000-05:002008-07-29T23:15:00.000-05:00I trusted Nathan's insight, I'm just not sure what...I trusted Nathan's insight, I'm just not sure what to do with the information, if anything. You're right that thinking like a journalist influences my world view tremendously.Patsy Terrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03265729671827964868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-14690587961323105632008-07-29T19:10:00.000-05:002008-07-29T19:10:00.000-05:00Patsy,IMHO, Nathan has answered what your asking. ...Patsy,<BR/><BR/>IMHO, Nathan has answered what your asking. <BR/><BR/>I'll add to it briefly by saying that you've always been very proud of your journalistic training. It is very much a part of how you present yourself to the world.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-86988772746152495662008-07-29T15:15:00.000-05:002008-07-29T15:15:00.000-05:00Oh, Amy... you made me laugh with that last paragr...Oh, Amy... you made me laugh with that last paragraph... but I'm just going to go with you're dispensing sage wisdom since I like what you have to say. lol Leah and Nathan are both wonderful people who have great insights, which is why I took their comments very seriously. It's just one of those things I'm puzzling over. I appreciate your kind words. I might make some changes, but living with an alcoholic is NOT on the list of potential compromises. I like your approach of kindness, but distant kindness at times. That's logical.Patsy Terrellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03265729671827964868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10718822.post-3091957783556824342008-07-29T14:51:00.000-05:002008-07-29T14:51:00.000-05:00Patsy, I think you're approachable. Everyone has t...Patsy, I think you're approachable. <BR/><BR/>Everyone has their own biases. I understand your frustration about what you percieve as YOUR problem, but what you have to remember is that all interactions are two-sided.<BR/><BR/>Maybe the guy who made the comments about your glasses is a jock type who always associated glasses with the "smart" girls that he was never quite good enough for.<BR/><BR/>Maybe the woman who though you were stand-off-ish in the hall is a blonde and has always been looked down upon by brunettes.<BR/><BR/>You're approachable and wonderful. And yes, you probably do have a healthier outlook on relationships if you refuse to live with alcoholics or crazymakers. <BR/><BR/>You are someone who is very independent and self-aware. There are a lot of people out there who aren't like that. There are people who crave attention at any cost, even if that attention comes from someone like an alcoholc or a crazymaker. <BR/><BR/>As human beings, I believe we are morally obligated to be kind to everyone we meet. That does not mean that we have to treat everyone as our best friend. We have the obligation to ourselves to be able to identify people who have personalities that will harm us and then distance ourselves from them.<BR/><BR/>Really, I'm sure you're at least average if not ahead of the curve in your human interactions.<BR/><BR/>Of course, you must remember that I'm a cold-hearted ... witch who has yet to come to terms with an appropriate emotional response to people who show an emotional attachment to me. So, I might be a skewed source of insight.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10196179149371195215noreply@blogger.com